If you haven’t heard yet (and I’ll be honestly shocked if you haven’t) Kansas Rep. and Pastor Pete DeGraaf recently decided to make it public knowledge that he felt being impregnated by a rape is akin to getting a flat tire without a spare.
During a session in which it was decided that a ban on abortions in insurance coverage was mandatory minus one condition–when a woman’s life was at risk.
DeGraaf also wanted pregnancy-by-rape abortions to be in that same ban, though a woman could purchase an abortion-only plan.
Rep. Pete DeGraaf, a Mulvane Republican who supports the bill, told her: “We do need to plan ahead, don’t we, in life?”
Bollier asked him, “And so women need to plan ahead for issues that they have no control over with pregnancy?”
DeGraaf drew groans of protest from some House members when he responded, “I have a spare tire on my car.”
“I also have life insurance,” he added. “I have a lot of things that I plan ahead for.”
Are you FUCKING KIDDING ME?
You know what, DeGraaf? I bet if someone jumped out from behind your car today and raped you, you wouldn’t have a fucking plan in place for that. You wouldn’t have a spare tire for your ass while someone mercilessly held you down and disregarded your humanity.
I bet you wouldn’t have a plan in place for the humiliation you’d feel afterwards, and if you had the ability to become pregnant, the horror of realizing that the incident has left you with a terrible choice to make that your insurance company will not help you with.
I bet you wouldn’t have a plan in place for the psychological damage that happens when someone steals that part of your soul.
I bet you wouldn’t have a plan in place for when your drink is drugged and a friend holds you down in a daze and destroys your innocence and your heart.
You send a message to women that’s all too familiar–that you feel rape is entirely the fault of the woman. The assumption, the gall, to say that women can and should plan ahead for a goddamn rape sends a silent message that it’s okay for women to be raped, as long as she’s filed her proper papers. You send the message that rape, like home repair and health physicals, are TO. BE. EXPECTED. Rape away, fuckers, because she’s with State Farm.
What a cheery goddamn message to send to our young girls. “At some point, a man will destroy everything you hold dear in a sad attempt at controlling you and making himself feel powerful–and there’s literally nothing you can do about it or any resulting consequences.”
I sincerely hope that no one you know and love is raped, to spare you and they from the horror of what rape really is–it’s more than insurance, more than a policy, more than a law. It’s a violation of everything that you are and ever were. It’s a rape of your soul and your body, and afterwards, no one should be faced with a closed door and a shaking head.
And you can plan, DeGraaf, that The League of Funny Bitches will not let this bullshit stand. And you can plan that I’ll be asking them to send you spare tires by donating to Kansas NOW. Because each and every one of us has been affected by rape in some way, whether it’s happened to us, our sisters, our friends, and every other woman in the world.
No one deserves rape, and more than that, no one deserves to feel like the enemy at the hands of true evil.
—It feels cheap to put a favorite comment from my last post here, so look for 2 favorite comments on Friday.